Today we talk with James from splat HQ to talk about his love of Gunge and WAM (Wet And Messy) play.
We talk about the fun that can be had getting messy, what foodstuffs and products can be used for gunge play and where to find material and people also into gunge.
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Recently, we had a guest who discussed his experiences with silicone injections and genital enlargement. As part of that podcast, we discussed the risks and concerns associated with that procedure. However, a recent incident -- unrelated to this specific show or its guest -- has encouraged us to draft an additional, more specific warning.
On November 16, a well-known silicone injection user -- @gitbigger on Twitter -- died due to lung failure, which was brought on by an injection gone wrong. We’ve been told that the person performing the injection accidentally hit a vein, and that this allowed the silicone to travel into life-threatening places. Our condolences go out to his family, his partner and his friends.
Before undertaking any BDSM activity, it’s very, very important to both know and plan for all the possible things that can go wrong. But some activities are not guaranteed safe under any circumstances. Unlicensed medical procedures fall under that heading. Even licensed surgical procedures can be risky, but without proper licensure and supervision, the risks are significantly greater. That includes more than just injury and disfigurement. “Death” is most definitely on that list of risks.
As always, the major choices in your life are your own to make. Just think them through seriously and carefully before you make them. Because some of those choices can only be made once, and once done, they cannot be undone.
WARNING: This episode contains descriptions of consent violations both factual and fictitious.
Today Adam and Craig delve into the ins and outs of Consent and kink and BDSM play. From the basics of pre play negotiation and continued consent to more advanced topics and unique issues with consent in kink and BDSM play.
Basic consent ideas
How to have a Pre scene discussion
What's the difference between hard limits and soft limits
Be ready to clearly set ideas, don’t be vague
Talk about the reasons behind your limits, don't just give a laundry list.
Absence of no isn't the same as yes. The ‘enthusiastic yes’ concept
Explain the concept of Continued consent
Ongoing discussions in a scene. Both the tops and bottoms responsibility
The traffic light system
Advanced consent ideas
Dangers of shifting limits in subspace
Dangers of going nonverbal
Playing without a safeword
Implicit expectations of play spaces, darkrooms/orgy rooms ect, knowing the space.
Clear ways to give nonverbal consent
Clear ways to show nonverbal refusal of Consent
How to protect yourself
The difficulty with grey areas of consent
Violation without a deliberate violator
Our thoughts on how to handle these events as a sub
Our thoughts on how to handle events if you're the top in question
The concept of rashomon in conflict
For further exploration of these issues and concepts, I highly recommend these episodes of Graydancer’s Ropecast
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Today we are interviewing a friend of the show Sir Dart; An experienced kink educator, former bounded and gagged model, host of the darts domain podcast and Adam's Grand-Daddy.
Dart today talks with Adam and Craig about his history with bondage as well as his view on forcing appearance changes on someone as a form of domination, dealing with one of his biggest mistakes in a scene and much more.
- Dart's exposure to bondage and his 'coming out' about his kinky side
- Acting in porn
- First bondage experiences in bars
- The differences between Shibari and practical bondage
- The Psychology behind forced transformations and appearances
- Personal experiences with Forced changes to appearances
- The difficulties of coming out about an uncommon or unique fetish
- The pros and cons of analyzing the roots of a fetish for people
- Learning from your mistakes and putting other peoples safety before pride and ego
- Mistakes in play we have made
- dealing with jealousy and feeling compersion
Dart can be found as @DartsDomain on twitter and his blog and podcast are found at www.sirdart.com
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This episode we have sexual health worker and former pornstar Jason in our new studio to talk about the nature of barebacking as a fetish and it's evolution in tandem with safe sex messages. We discuss:
- The fetishisation of condom-less sex due to it becoming a taboo
- Reasons for barebacking
- Jason's experiences in porn
- The current attitudes sexual health
- Safety steps for bareback
- the psychology of the BBBH
- The cultural messages of gay sex being dangerous
- Eroticising condom usage
- What is a bottoms best friend?
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